I have a rose bush in my front yard that is covered with flowers and will be beautiful in a few days. Last year when it grew such long branches I thought it should be cut back, but in lieu of knowing exactly how I was supposed to do it I did not do it. (Maybe there are times when waiting on the Lord and letting Him do are appropriate.) The interesting thing about that bush is that three years ago my neighbor killed it with weed killer. Next to the bush in their share of the yard was some grass that she wanted to get rid of. As she sprayed the roundup on her grass the wind blew it and all but destroyed the roses. It then was under a pear tree and was not thriving as it is now in full sun. We had the pear tree removed because it was about to fill the power lines and the power company offered to take it out. Since the thing smelled badly in the spring, (even though it had beautiful flowers) and they often split if they are pruned to severely, which is what the power company wanted to do to it, we elected to have it removed.(we inherited the tree and roses with our house) The tree roots were also digging up the driveway. That is another story.
When you trust God enough you can see that everything that happens, although He does not cause it He teaches us through our circumstances. Since I learned and am still learning this year that He is more concerned with our righteousness (which becomes beauty) than our happiness. I felt like the Lord was showing me through the rose, that He can take something that appears a lost cause and may even be dead to all appearances and bring it to a beauty that we can only dream about. Isaiah 61:3 “and provide for those who grieve in Zion- to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.”
For me that also helped me understand how He wants us to die to our self and selfishness because who He created us to be has a chance to become, and it is so much more beautiful than what we create in ourselves without God.
If you live in the Atlanta, Ga. area there is a restoring ministry called Oaksofrighteousness.org that is all about inner healing.